The picture above shows a woman caught in a web with a large spider over her. The woman is well trapped and the spider is in control and able to feed at any time. This is to me an accurate depiction of how narcissists trap their victim and keep them bound up and controlled to use them as they wish at any time. For those who have been caught up in a relationship with a narcissist you will understand this depiction well.
In my last article (Part 5) I discussed something of the different types of narcissism and some the behaviours and characteristics that they exhibit. In this article I am going to focus on some of the main things that narcissists do to manipulate others around them.
I need to say that people can be manipulative without being narcissistic. We can all be manipulative or maybe we have learned to manipulate others through poor examples when were growing up. It is up to us to be aware of this and allow the Holy Spirit to show us the right way to interact with others that does not include manipulating them to get what we want. We all have needs but most normal interactions people have with each other are based on reasonable “give and take”. If you are giving of yourself to others, most other normal folk will respond in kind and give back in some other way. We all have needs as humans and sometimes we are able to give more and at other times we require more from others due to our circumstances. Narcissists just tend to vacuum everything up around them and leave a gaping void.